Resources and other Helpful Links
Information/Resource Sites
Divorce Magazine.com – an informative online magazine which provides area specific resources.
Divorce-online.com - Provides lots of articles and information on a wide range of topics related to divorce. Also supplies a professional reference index by area.
Collaborative Law Institute of Texas is an organization comprised of independent, unaffiliated family law practitioners who are dedicated to resolving divorce and family law disputes, without bloodshed.
Mediate.com – offers information to professionals and parents on the process of mediation. To find a mediator in your area click on the following link http://www.mediate.com/mediator/search.cfm
Colorado Divorce Mediation - Award-winning information by Colorado attorney-mediators on this child-friendlier and increasingly popular and positive alternative to adversarial divorce: family mediation. Especially recommended are the web-exclusive child custody parenting plans of Dr. Joan Kelly, with illustrative graphics. Even if you live outside Colorado, this site has lots of useful divorce and mediation information.
Resolution, first for family law - a UK based organization comprised of family lawyers committed to the constructive resolution of family disputes. Resolution members follow a Code of Practice that promotes a non-confrontational approach to family problems and encourages solutions that consider the needs of the whole family - and in particular the best interests of children. Also an excellent resource for mediation and collaborative law.
Online Resources for PAS/HAP
Hostile Aggressive Parenting.com - Hostile Aggressive Parenting is encountered in most high conflict child-custody disputes and is often used as a tool to align the child with one parent during litigation. This site strives to educate the public about this growing problem in hopes of getting help to those who need it.
Parent Alienation Awareness Organization - An organization dedicated to educating the general public, the schools, police, counselors, religious leaders, and more, about the growing problems of Parent Alienation and Hostile Aggressive Parenting. This organization has been actively involved in raising awareness through campaigning for the national and international recognition of Parent Alienation Awareness Day on April 25th.
Additional Online Resources for Parents
National Father’s Resource Center - This offers information to fathers which supports shared parenting and the active involvement of both parents in a child’s life.
Our Family Wizard.com – is an interactive and secure means for separated or divorced parents to communicate and share information between households. By using this site families can eliminate the stress of verbal communication. The website also provides a way for family members to retrieve important information or access a schedule from any location. www.ourfamilywizard.com
How to Divorce as Friends.com - Bill Ferguson guides you through healing your hurt, resolving personal issues and ending conflict with your ex spouse. Bill also empowers people to change their attitudes and in doing so, change their lives.
Starting Over
Smart Marriages.com - Sponsored by The Coalition for Marriage, Family and Couple Education. This site focuses on helping individuals build skills for successful, healthy relationships and families.
The Stepfamily Association of America - provides supportive resources for stepparents and blended families.
Bonus Families.com - An international non-profit organization dedicated to promoting peaceful coexistence between divorced or separated parents and their combined families. Committed to changing the way society looks at co-parenting after divorce or separation and stepfamilies it also hosts the syndicated column "Ex-Etiquette" by Sharyl Jupe and Jann Blackstone-Ford. A great resource for parents who are wanting to grow beyond the stereotypical view of step-families.
Recommended Readings
Joint Custody with a Jerk by Julie A. Ross and Judy Corcoran - Most parents find the title fairly amusing, however the book does offer more than a good chuckle. Joint Custody with a Jerk is geared to help parents deal with many of those less than ideal situations. It provides tips on how to handle an uncooperative ex, identifying your own feelings, problem solving and conflict resolution.
Divorce Poison, Protecting the Parent-Child Bond from a Vindictive Ex by Dr. Richard A. Warshak - An excellent resource for parents who are dealing with a vindictive ex-spouse who is focused on seriously damaging your relationship with your children. This book helps parents identify damaging behavior from the subtle to the severe and provides good information on how deal with this situation.
We’re Still Family, What Grown Children Have to Say About Their Parents’ Divorce by Constance Ahrons, Ph.D. - In this book, Constance Ahrons challenges the myth that children of divorce are troubled, drug abusing, academically challenged, and unable to form adult relationships. Instead she provides new evidence that the legacy of divorce is not as devastating as some researchers have suggested. By listening to the voices of these grown children, divorcing parents will learn what they can do to maintain family bonds.
The Truth about Children and Divorce by Robert E. Emery Ph.D. - In this book, Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Topics include how parents can manage the potentially toxic feelings of their divorce and deal more effectively with the necessary daily tasks—from talking to children and creating a workable parenting schedule to dealing with legal issues.
Mom's house, Dad's house by Isolina Ricci - Considered a classic guide by many professionals Ricci's book focuses on the experience of parents through the divorce process Throughout parents are guided through helpful exercises and self assessments to identify their own feelings and take stock of their relationship with the other parent.
Resources for Children
Lemons 2 lemonade, How to Handle Life When Things Go Sour Between Mom and Dad - This award winning DVD program is designed to address many of the concerns and problems children of divorce face everyday. Created for children between the ages of 6 to 12 years old, topics are presented in a fun, entertaining and kid friendly way. Lemons 2 Lemonade offers parents the opportunity to do something positive for their children in the very place where things are changing most…. their homes. To learn more about Lemons 2 Lemonade click here.
Dinosaur’s Divorce by Marc Brown and Laurie Krasny Brown - Sympathetic to the full range of feelings that divorce produces, the authors use evocative cartoon dinosaur characters to convey their message. Chapters address such concerns as why parents divorce, what will happen to "me," where will holidays be celebrated, living in two homes, etc.... for children 4-8
Missing Rabbit by Roni Schotter - A comfort to children who "go back and forth," Schotter's (Captain Snap and the Children of Vinegar Lane) thoughtfully conceived story addresses the anxieties of very young children living under joint custody arrangements. For ages 3-6.
Was it the Chocolate Pudding: A Story For Little Kids About Divorce by Sandra
Levin - With childlike innocence and humor, this book explains divorce from a kid's point-of-view. Special emphasis is placed on the fact that divorce is not the child's fault, that it is a grown-up problem. Deals with practical day-to-day matters such as single-family homes, joint custody, child-care issues, and misunderstandings.
My Stick Family by Natalie Reilly and Brandi Pavaese – This book emphasizes and reaffirms the resilience and constancy of love for children within the family, even after a marriage ends.
Mom's house, Dad's House for Kids by Isolina Ricci,Ph.D. - Designed for children 10 years and older this books invites children not only learn more about how their family is changing but also gives them the opportunity to develop important life skills.
