Divorce
What Parents Can Do for Kids of Divorce
In the Beginning… If possible, have both parents present when telling children about the divorce.Discuss what you will tell children before hand. Also, keep explanations simple and avoid placing blame. Use general statements such as Mom and Dad can’t live together anymore or Mom and Dad have decided we would be happier living in different…
Read MoreGuidelines for Divorced Parents to Live by
The Do’s Do love your children as much as possible.Show them your love through words and actions. Do tell your children divorce is not their fault.Keep in mind, they’ll need to hear it more than once. Do reassure your children that they will be safe.Let your kids know that both parents will continue to provide…
Read MoreMy Ex is a slob and it’s driving me crazy
COPARENTING AFTER DIVORCE AND DEALING WITH DIFFERENCES INVOLVES KNOWING WHEN TO HOLD FIRM AND WHEN TO STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF. If you search the web looking for information on coparenting, chances are you’ll find quite a bit of chatter about how to manage big-ticket items. How do you break the news to your kids?…
Read MoreWill you make difference for kids of divorce?
It’s not often that I ask for help but this is so incredibly important that I felt moved to reach out in a very big way. Just about anyone who has ever met me knows I am absolutely passionate about helping separated and divorced parents raise happy, confident and successful kids. Over the years,…
Read MoreLittle things matter: supporting the value of family after divorce
Supporting the value of family after divorce. “It’s not always the big things we do for our children that make the most difference. Sometimes it’s the subtle things we do over time that reflect integrity in our children’s eyes.” My husband is an amazing Dad. So when Father’s Day rolls around I usually get just…
Read MoreHow do you decide who should have primary custody of the children?
Q – What’s the best way to decide who should have primary custody of the children?A – Although your marriage relationship may have ended, your roles as Mom and Dad last a lifetime. Concepts like primary or sole custody tend to undermine healthy parent child relationships because they perpetuate the idea that parents no longer…
Read MoreHow should you handle special events like Mothers Day or Fathers Day and holidays?
No matter how you slice it, separating your feelings about special days from the needs of your children is important. If you’re grappling with how to handle a special event like Mother’s day or Father’s day with your kids, here’s some tips to help you get started. Plan ahead If you don’t already have something…
Read MoreTips for managing summer schedules
To help kids enjoy their time with each parent, here are some tips for making summers successful for everyone. Help kids have a good time Do your best to help build kid’s excitement about their summer getaway with the other parent. Spend time talking it up, making a summer calendar or maybe brainstorming ideas about…
Read MoreCommunicating With Your Co-Parent
In the beginning stages you may have very strong feelings about the divorce and each other. When those feelings are overwhelming, avoid the temptation to share your perspective about the divorce or the other parent with your children. Remember children literally view themselves as half Mom and half Dad. Keep in mind your children deserves…
Read MoreRethinking parenting responsibilities after divorce
In an ideal world, as a couple with children you work together to juggle the day-to-day needs of your kids. Getting homework done, monitoring how long they surf the web, shuffling them to appointments and football practices, all the while making sure they’re loved, fed, bathed and relatively safe. That’s the stuff parenting is made…
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